i am AJ and i am due to marry the love of my life Dave in 2012. We both live in the west midlands in the UK but don't live together just yet, (due to our parents letting us stay at home so we can pay for our wedding and baby things when the time comes, aren't they so kind.) I currently work a twilight shift with my mom so i do a lot of my writing in the day or very late at night. I think this shift will be good for when my kidney bean comes along as i will be with them in the day then Dave will have them while i am at work, we will save so much on childcare. I also have a blog about our up and coming wedding over at mybigdayinprep.blogspot.com, where there is all the DIY projects and thoughts i have for the wedding, we are very artsy and crafty so we like to make and do, i cant wait to be a mommy who does all the arts and crafts at the table with my children. I have had my plan for my pregnancy, birth and after for a while,i will let you in on the basics.
- From 12 weeks i will start to tell people, i plan on having a shirt made with an oven on it with a bun (or more if that is the case) in it.
- I don't want to know what I'm having as i really don't mind what we have as long as they are fit and healthy. (unless we do have a multiple due to the clomid but i would have to reconsider)
- i would like a water birth with minimal intervention (* i will explain below)
- after the birth and i take the baby home i will refuse to carry my baby in a car seat. (** see below)
- my baby will be carried using a sling/ carrier/ wrap as much as we can. (***)
- my baby will be fed on breast milk. (****)
- most of all my baby will wear cloth nappies, i have researched different brands and have heard they are as good if not better than disposable ones. (*****)
- finally my child will hate me by the age of 1 as they will have their whole life documented from first signs of a bump to videos of bump movement (if we are lucky) to having at least one photo per day to capture their lives.
* I have watched many shows on TV and after talking with my mom who has had 5 children (one by herself in the bathroom with my younger brother) i feel so strongly about not having drugs during labour, it is natural and my body will know what to do and when to do it, i will make it very clear that when i am at pushing stage i don't want the midwife or wives shouting at me to push, it has to be a calm place to be and people pushing me when its the wrong time, i feel, is what makes labour worse.
**i don't think the position a baby is in while in a car seat is any good to them at all, its all so un-natural and i wouldn't like to be squished up like that so why would i want my child to go through it, my child will be in car seats only while in a car and that will be for as short a time as is needed, i would prefer to walk and give the baby fresh air.
*** i think a sling or carrier is the best way to interact with your baby, they are close to the heart when they are small and studies have shown that this is very beneficial to young children and you can even do the chores without interrupting the baby.
****i feel if you make milk for your baby why do out and spend money on it, i am young and for the past 5 years a lot of the girls i went to school with have had babies and then moan all the time that they cant afford all these stuff but then they use formula milk, it just doesn't make sense to me, i also will be expressing as i don't want to leave daddy and our families out by not being able to bond with the baby through feeding/nursing.
*****as with the milk i feel disposable nappies is like throwing money down the drain, yes there is quite a big price to pay upfront for re-use able nappies but unless the baby is very small you only need one size as they are adjustable and you only need is detergent to clean them but just think of how much more money you will be spending on them just to throw them away.
so i have my plan which is actually in more detail than this but i am just getting a little bit ahead of myself as i am still in the process of getting my body to work right.
I am sorry if anything in this section upset anyone like with the nappies and the milk this is just my opinion.
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